The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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I really need you to answer my question as soon as possible. A girl from my friend's camp thinks I'm hot and she wants to have sex with me! I said , "No," But my friend says she's probably going to be one of the hottest girls you may ever sleep with. Should I do it or not? I don't think I should, but my friend says I'm being a coward.


"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10).

I'm curious why you are even asking this question. The word "fornication" means having sex with someone to whom you are not married. Having sex might appear to be fun, but is a few moments of "fun" worth going to hell over?

And why do you think it is cowardly to be brave enough call sin what it is: "sin?"

Are you ready to become a father? After all, that is the typical result of sex. Are you prepared to risk catching a sexually transmitted disease? Girls like this one who propositioned you often have sex with many guys, so you would be exposing yourself to all the diseases others have.

Think about this as well. If you have sex with this girl, you are treating her as if you were just an animal. You don't know her. She doesn't know you. But just because she appears to be pretty your friend things that is justification enough for you to put your penis in her. That isn't an act of love that is what two dogs do.

Put God first in your life. He tells us the way that makes life better. Save yourself for your wife because you want sex to be something special -- reserved only for the woman you loved so much that you married her.

I was not going to but what I was hoping for you to give me is some advice for what to say to my friend to convince him, you know.

Well, now you have several:

  1. It is against God.
  2. I'm not ready to become a dad even accidentally.
  3. I don't want to expose myself to diseases.
  4. I want to treat the woman whom I have sex with respect and not like a animal.
  5. I want to be in love with the woman whom I have sex.
  6. I want to be married to the woman with whom I have sex before we have sex.

Because I want sex to be something special in my life and in my wife's life.