The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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Hi, I have question:

I'm a 15 year old Christian and I masturbate about two times every other day. I've been masturbating for almost 2 years and I want to somehow enhance my experience. I was wondering if it's ok for a Christian to look up masturbation tips on the computer. Thank you for your time.


You are treading on dangerous ground. First, you are not masturbating because of a need but because of enjoyment of the pleasure. Such often happens to young men because compulsive habits are easily formed during the teenage years. The problem is that a Christian isn't suppose to pursue sexual passion and sensuality. "Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience" (Colossians 3:5-6). Every young man has to learn to manage his sexual desire by controlling his passion. You do not learn self-control by increasing the problem.

The second problem is that your proposed source is one where secular people will propose things that no Christian ought to think about, such as masturbating with other people, which is the beginnings of homosexual acts. I'm certain such sites are loaded with ads for pornography as well, since so many secular people arouse themselves by looking at pornography. "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God" (I Thessalonians 4:3-5).

Thank you very much. I will change my ways. God bless.