The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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Question

I have a friend whom I like very much. I have never dated. How do I go about telling her how I feel toward her?


Answer

It seems difficult, but it really isn't. What stops most young men is a fear of rejection and a fear they won't be able to fix any mistakes they might accidentally make. The second fear is not reasonable. While a mistake can make a relationship awkward, it isn't likely you'll say or do something that can't be straighten out. The first fear just has to be faced. Is it better to learn that she isn't interested in you know than to spend months in silent expectation that never comes?

The best thing to do is simply tell her. Something like, "I really enjoy being with you. Would you like to go to a movie with me?" You say what it is that you like about her and you ask her to spend a little more time with you, such as seeing something together or going out to eat together. Notice that there is no request for her to make any commitment, it is just asking for more of her time.