The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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Hello,

I'm a 13 year old boy. I strongly believe in God. But I'm not entirely sure whether one thing is a sin or not. First of all, I used to be a bisexual, but now I'm back to being a heterosexual. I'm not entirely sure if being a bisexual is a sin or not. I'm not a bisexual anymore, but I still want to know have committed a sin or not. Second, I used to watch videos and look at pictures about foot fetishes. But I have promised God that I wouldn't watch them anymore. I would like to know whether it's a sin or not. I also masturbate, but I don't know if it's a sin or not. So I would like to know:

1. Have I committed a sin for being bisexual?
2. Have I committed a sin for watching those type of videos or pictures?
3. Have I committed a sin for having a foot fetish or bondage fetish?
4. Have I committed a sin for masturbating?

Please answer. Thank you.


Answer

To claim to be a bisexual means you were having sex with both girls and boys. I'm hoping that at the age of 13 that you have not already been putting your penis where it doesn't belong. Having sex with a girl to whom you are not married is a sin that is called "fornication." Having sex with a boy is a sin called "homosexuality." To claim to be a bisexual is to claim that you are involved in both types of sins. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10).

That you get sexually aroused is normal for a boy and has nothing to do with whom you'll one day have sex with. The male body when first developing gets aroused by anything, everything, and nothing in particular. The arousal is mechanical response to the environment. While your thoughts can trigger arousal, anything that is remotely connected to a sexual situation will trigger it. Even non-sexual things can trigger arousal simply because your body hasn't learned when an erect penis is needed.

The videos and pictures you were looking at were designed to get a guy fixated on one part of the human body. Adolescent boys are particularly vulnerable to obsessive thoughts and habits. In a sense, it is designed to lead to harder forms of pornography. "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God" (I Thessalonians 4:3-5). The problem is that you were focusing you lust on these times of things and lust is a sin.

The act of masturbating independent of pornography and lustful thoughts is neither right nor wrong. It is a way of getting rid of excess semen by triggering an ejaculation. See: Is masturbation sinful or not?

Thank you. I now know what is right or wrong. For your information, I am a heterosexual. I now come to view my former bisexuality as just a phase of puberty. I will now stop viewing those videos and pictures. And I am thankful to know that masturbation is perfectly normal. I will pray for forgiveness. I hope that God will forgive me, for I will never watch those videos or pictures again.

Thank you.