The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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There is this girl that I have known for about a year and a half.  She and I texted a lot when we first met, but we couldn't date.  Ever since then she flirts with me and I flirt with her.  I try to just let her go, but I can't seem to fully let go.  I want to remain friends, but every time I am around her a lot I fall back into the same cycle.  How should I still stay her friend, but not "like" her anymore?


Answer

I don't understand why you can't like another person (girl or not) without having to consider them as someone you have a romantic interest in. Or are you saying there is more to this flirting than teasing about liking each other?

I'm saying that when I see her and talk to her a lot, then she starts flirting with me and I fall into the trap of wanting to date her again. She has a boyfriend, and she still acts like this. I want to get to the point where I can see her and talk to her but have no desire for anything more than just being friends.

It may not be possible because the problem is on her end and not yours. She is not committed to the boy she is with at the moment. A girl who tries to get multiple boys romantically interested in her isn't a safe girl to be around because your mind will always be battling your body.