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Sir

I am a college student. My age is 25 years. Sir, I have night fall frequently. In a week it is about 2 or 3 times.

Whenever I talk to my classmate (female), our talk never includes any sexual talk. Even then I feel that some fall occurs. What do I have to do?

We've known each other for about a year. She said that she loves me, but I don’t say anything to her. I always say we are just friends. From my side I never talk to her about anything sexual and if she starts, I stop her. She helps me in every difficulty of my life. I feel bad when I doesn’t properly answer her calls. I avoid receiving her calls and messages.

My frequent night fall problem is every old. It is from my graduation days and still continues. Please suggest to me if there is any need to take some nutritious diet.


Answer

It appears you don't understand how your body works. Male AnatomyLet's discuss the physical aspect of the issue. Your body has two seminal vesicles, which are located just below and behind the bladder. These vesicles constantly produce semen and eventually they get full. As they get full, your body gets more sensitive to sexual touch. Your mind also tends to move to sexual ideas and that is where you start feeling like you are going crazy.

The design of the male body is to get rid of older semen to make room for fresh material. To get rid of the excess, you have to ejaculate.

One way that excess is taken care of is an instinctive response by the body when your seminal vesicles get full. During the dream stage of sleep (also known as the REM or Rapid Eye Movement stage), your body automatically gets an erection. You have four to six erections every night, but you only notice the last one when you wake up in the morning. Since your penis and glans are hypersensitive because the seminal vesicles are full, your body responds by rubbing your penis. Eventually you reach orgasm and ejaculate. For some men, they sleep so soundly that don't realize it happened until they wake up in the morning. Others semi-wake while it is going on, but fall right back to sleep when it is over. Others come fully awake just before reaching the point of ejaculating. This is called having a wet dream, a nocturnal emission, or a night fall. Not everyone is able to have wet dreams, but a lot of men have them.

Almost 100% of men discover at some point how to masturbate and trigger an ejaculation. The feeling of pleasure that comes with orgasm and the relief of ejaculating is so intense that it is common for young men to pursue it. But again, the design of the body is that it is easiest to ejaculate when the seminal vesicles are full, but harder when they get close to empty.

Many boys, in a desire to ejaculate more often, pursue sexual images (pornography) to get their bodies aroused sufficiently even when their seminal vesicles aren't full. Pornography is wrong because it is pursuing lust and lewdness. "Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts" (Romans 13:13-14).

However, needing to ejaculate isn't lust. It is a physical need of the body that can't be ignored. It isn't a problem that needs solving, it is the way your body is supposed to work. I assume you don't masturbate, so having a wet dream, or night fall, two or three times a week is fairly typical for a young man.

When you are talking with this girl, I doubt that you are actually ejaculating. More likely you are aroused and pre-ejaculate fluid is dripping from your penis. The fluid is produced by your Cowpar's glands and they both clear out the tube in your penis of any leftover urine and lubricate the tube in case ejaculation is needed later. Pre-ejaculate fluid can be embarrassing as it leaves a wet spot on your pants -- fortunately it dries quickly without leaving a stain. However, this is not the same as a night fall. Nor do you have any control over this process. It is an automatic response whenever you get sexually aroused -- whether sex is the topic of discussion or not. One thing you can do is if you feel your underwear getting damp is to excuse yourself and in the restroom put some tissue by the end of your penis to catch the drippings. The only problem is that you can leave it there too long because it will eventually soak through.

It sounds to me that you are attracted to this girl. Is there a reason you are not considering the possibility of marrying her?

Respected Sir,

Actually this girl doesn’t belong to my caste. The main reason whenever I talk to her and pre-ejaculation occurs, I feel that I am not properly clean and I hesitate in doing any religious work like in worship, or praying to God. I belong to the Hindu religion, and it is said that you are properly washed when going to temple, so it seems to me that I am doing something wrong. Either I have to be properly cleaned then worship or don’t worship. I feel that by this way I am not respecting God. Many consequences regarding this start in my mind after talking her. So many times I don’t attend her calls and avoids to meet her. When she asks I made some reason, so that she doesn’t feel bad.

Please guide me what I will do.

I only teach Christianity. I cannot support the ideas espoused by Hinduism.

There is no caste system in Christianity -- all people are seen as equal in the eyes of God. "For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus" (Galatians 3:26-28).

In Christianity it is sin, not physical things, which make a person unclean. Dripping pre-ejaculate fluid is merely the physical response of the body, it has nothing to do with uncleanness. Even in the Old Testament, which had physical things causing uncleanness, only semen made a man unclean. Pre-ejaculate fluid did not count.

In Christianity lying is never acceptable. Claiming to spare someone's feeling by being dishonest will only get you into deeper trouble.