The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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Question

What does it mean if my testicles are still small and my penis is still skinny? The reason I'm worried so much is because my friend (obviously she's a girl) wants to take it to the next level and I'm afraid I'm too small to pleasure her.


Answer

I would assume that you are still maturing. About half of all boys gain the ability to ejaculate during stage 2, but their genitals are still relatively small. The penis lengthens during stage 3 and gets wider during stage 4. I assume this means you are still in stage 3 of development.

What you are proposing to do with this girl is called fornication in the Bible. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). Fornication is when a guy puts his penis into a girl. God says it is a sin because it can lead to a number of problems:

  • The natural result of sex is children and I doubt either you or your girlfriend are ready to become parents.
  • There is a strong risk of diseases that are transmitted sexually because people who are willing to have sex without commitment tend to have multiple partners.
  • It changes the nature of the relationship from one of friendship and mutual respect to one that revolves solely around sex. More often than not, this leads to friendship falling apart.

Sin doesn't just start with intercourse. Prior to a guy putting his penis into a girl, there is a lot of touching. The Bible calls this "lewdness." Lewdness means acting like an animal instead of a human being. Of course it is also accompanied by strong desires to commit fornication, which is called "lust." "Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts" (Romans 13:13-14). The sexual touching is also condemned because it leads to lust, lewdness, and fornication. "Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman" (I Corinthians 7:1).

Rather than putting all sorts of complications into your life at this stage, wait until you have finished maturing. Find a woman you want to marry, where both of you have committed your lives to each other, and then enjoy sex without concerns or worries.

Thanks, that helped a lot!