The Boys' Growing Up in the Lord

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I am so panicked and frightened at regular intervals. It feels as if my semen is coming out, which I consider harmful to my health. The fear these thoughts create led me to a very bad mental state. I just want to know how can I overcome this panic of being emasculated?


Answer

Your fears arise from not understanding what it means to be a male. Men and women are designed to have sex when they become husbands and wives. "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Becoming one flesh involves much more than sex, but it is included in the concept.

The male half of sex involves having an erect penis and ejaculating semen so that the man's wife may eventually have a child. God did not design the system to be first used when a husband gets in bed with his wife. For the man, God designed the sexual functions to be tested over several years so that the systems can coordinate themselves. Thus, when you first begin to develop from a child into an adult, you have frequent erections -- often to the point of being completely annoying. But these erections are teaching your body how to use the new feature and when it is appropriate to use this new feature. Eventually the organs involved in producing semen begin to function. Your body has a limited capacity for storing semen, so older batches of semen have to be gotten rid of through ejaculations. Such ejaculations occur in wet dreams or through masturbation.

Ejaculating semen does not cause harm a male. It is how the male body was designed. If anything could cause harm, it would be not ejaculating when your body badly needs to get rid of excess semen.

To get rid of your fears, you need to accept the fact that you are male and being a male involves dealing with various body functions that you didn't have as a child, but which are perfectly normal.

Thanks. It helped a lot.