The Girls' Growing Up in the Lord

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I started bleeding "down there" and I don't know what's happening. It's not my period because it burns really bad and I don't know what to do about it. I'm really scared and I don't want to tell my mom because she would make me go to the doctors and I don't want anyone looking down there because it really freaks me out. Please, please answer.

Kylie (age 13)


Answer

The reason you are scared is because you are facing something that you don't know. You don't know what is causing the burning sensation. You don't know how your mother is going to react. You don't know what the doctor will do or say.

When we don't know something, our imagination kicks in to supply us possible answers. The problem is, there is no limits to our imagination. We can imagine all sorts of dreadful things which might happen. But the truth is that we just don't know.

The problem with such fears is that they keep us from doing anything at all. We lock up in our imagination. Oddly, reality is almost never as bad as our imagination. The problem is that when we lock up in fear, we don't give ourselves a chance to find out.

A burning sensation is not normal. I can't tell you why you are feeling it because there are too many possibilities. Someone needs to ask you questions to narrow down the possibilities and perhaps do a few tests to see if some guesses are correct. It could be something as mild as having a yeast infection or it could be something serious such as diabetes or multiple sclerosis. That is why symptoms of problems should never be ignored or not mentioned.

So be an adult about this and not a child. Tell your mother that something is not right and that you would like to see a gynecologist, preferably a female one. The doctor will be able to calm your fears and let you know exactly what is going on -- that will be far easier to handle than fearing the unknown.