Are there really not that many gay people?

Last updated on October 11, 2020


Hi Mr. Hamilton,

Sorry to bother you. I’ve been doing really good and haven’t been concerned that I was gay for a while, but yesterday was national coming out day for LGBT people and it got me thinking again. Sometimes I still look at muscular guys and I’m sure it’s just because I want to look like them, but I don’t get the feeling that it seems like most guys my age get when they see a hot girl. I went to homecoming with a girl I really like and I had a good time, so I don’t know why I’m worked up.

Are there really not that many gay people?


I don’t mind sincere questions, so there is no need to apologize.

Feelings are a horrible way to determine what a person ought to do with their lives. Feelings change faster than the temperatures in Nebraska. So you don’t treat girls like they’re sex objects. That is a good thing (Matthew 5:28). God wants us to do what is right regardless of how we might personally feel at any given moment. See It’s Not How You Feel.

A poll in 2017 found 4.5% of the United States population identifies itself as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. [Justin McCarthy, “Americans Still Greatly Overestimate U.S. Gay Population“, 27 June 2019.] But notice that this lumps a lot of people together with different sexual practices. Another survey found that 2.2% of the adult male population claims to be homosexual and 1.1% of the adult women population claims to be lesbian. Assuming that half the population is male and half female, then actual homosexuals only make up 1.6% of the total population. The remaining 2.9% would be those who don’t care who they have sex with and those who claim to be transgender. [Statista Research Department, “U.S. Homosexuality – Statistics & Facts“, 9 June 2017.] The number might actually be less because I don’t know how many actually have had sex with the same gender. There are many people who are convinced that they are homosexual yet have never had sex with a person of the same gender.


Thank you so much. This makes me feel a lot better.