I think I have a developmental problem and find myself looking at my friends’ genitals

Last updated on September 18, 2020



I am 15 years old and I think that I have some sort of developmental problem. Both my penis (5 inches erect) and my testicles (10ml) are smaller than those of other boys (I’ve seen them in school showers). I find myself somehow attracted to some of my friends’ genitals and try to look at them whenever I can (eg. in toilets, changing, etc.). I think I do this because I find them more manly and can’t help but look. Does this mean I’m gay? I’m not sure which category of questions this fits into your web site, but I hope you can help me answer this.


To be gay or homosexual means you are having sex with other guys. This is not true with you. You are a bit envious of other guys developing sooner and bigger than you have so far. Your curious about what a bigger, more mature set of genitals would look like, but none of that means you are a homosexual.

Growth and development take place on a range. It is different for each person. It sounds to me that you are still in the process of growing while some others are nearly done. That doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.


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