Last updated on August 24, 2020
Question:
I do these exercises with my penis. Every day I stretch it to make it longer, I also get erect and do basic jelqing exercises — squeezing to increase the blood flow to the penis. Doing this every day makes the penis bigger. When I get erect I don’t think about lusting or a girl, I just touch my penis and it gets erect. It needs to be erect as it’s part of the exercise, but I don’t think lustful thoughts to get erect. I am waiting for marriage for sex. I do the exercises so when I do get married, it will increase pleasure with my wife. Am I wrong for this? Can you give me Bible verses?
Answer:
First, you need to understand that your future wife will not care about the length of your penis. The way God designed the female body, her vagina will adapt to the size of your penis. It has been noted women have a harder time adapting to a large penis than to a smaller one since a larger penis requires more stretching to accommodate.
Second, sexual pleasures during intercourse do not come from the size of a man’s penis. The amount of pleasure in sex is derived from how it is done, not the size of your equipment.
Third, while there are numerous claims of increased penis size for jelqing, none are supported by any real study. I found a few claims that a study exists, but I found no real medical study on the topic. The technique claims to increase the size by forcing your blood toward the glans while you are semi-erect. The thought is that it will stretch out the chambers in your penis allowing, over time, a potentially larger penis when you are fully erect.
It sounds interesting until I went to medical sites which I’ve found to be reliable in the past. I found numerous postings by urologists (doctors who take care of your penis and urinary tract) who have issued strong warnings against the technique. They are seeing numerous men with broken blood vessels, unusual bulges, and nerve damage. It seems fairly clear to me that this “natural” technique is not as safe as its proponents have made it out to be.
What it really comes down to is that you aren’t happy with the way God made you. Instead of being content, you have fooled yourself into thinking that if something changes, then I’ll be happy. The real pathway to happiness is to find contentment in the way things are. “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content” (Philippians 4:11). If you read on, you will find that Paul learned to be content in both good times and bad times. Contentment is a choice to find happiness regardless of circumstances. If you are not happy with yourself now, having a bigger penis is not going to make you or your future wife happier.
The problem is that you are focusing on things of this world, and everything in this world, including sex, is temporary. “And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever” (I John 2:17). So start focusing on things that will truly make a difference in your marriage. Work on your character because that is something that will last.
Response:
Thanks a lot. You’re right about the fact that God made me the way He wanted to. I’ve been praying that God gives me a wife that I’ll be happy with in every way. I trust God, and that He hears my prayers. I know He will give me a wife that we can together grow spiritually. God has called me to preach. I live for God. God is using you in a big way by answering people’s questions. Keep doing this. Keep teaching the word. God bless you a lot. I’ll be in touch with you. Jesus is coming soon. Let’s persevere so we can live eternally in heaven. Jesus is coming for us. I feel it!