Question:
I am 13, and I started wondering if teenage Christian boys could use sex toys to masturbate.
Answer:
There is a problem with the source of these toys. Places that sell these types of things are usually connected with pornography and the like. It would not be proper for Christians to shop at such places. The fact that such devices are sold in these kinds of places should be a warning that something isn’t quite right about the concept.
There is a danger that priority is being given to personal pleasure. When people pursue pleasure, they tend to get distracted from matters of righteousness. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God” (I Thessalonians 4:3-5). The pursuit of sexual passion is not what being a Christian is about.
On a related theme, there is a danger that a person becomes dependent on the sex toy in order to enjoy sex. This can be harmful when you get married. Sex is designed to satisfy a need between a married couple. “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does” (I Corinthians 7:3-4). The use of a sex toy can lead to satisfaction without the need for a partner, thus creating a barrier. Also, it can be awkward to not be comfortable having sex without the use of a toy. People adapt to what they are familiar with.
Except in cases where physical damage, such as nerve damage from an accident, causes a person to be unable to ejaculate on their own, I can’t see any usefulness to such devices. It offers nothing that you can’t do on your own, and you don’t need to buy anything.