Last updated on May 8, 2026
Question:
I would like to give you some info first before I ask my question. I had been talking to this girl for a month. I really liked her, and she stated that she liked me. We both made an effort to see each other and spend time together. I’m a child of God. She believes in God and Jesus, but hadn’t been going to church as much as she needed to, she said. She seemed to have good ethics, such as viewing abortion as being wrong, and so on. Well, recently, I figured out she supports homosexuality. I told her that I didn’t believe in that, and we didn’t talk for about a day. She ended up texting me that we aren’t compatible long-term and that she wishes me the best. I really liked this girl. So what I want to ask is, should I just let her go since she probably won’t change her views on homosexuality, or should I try to help her see why that is wrong?
Answer:
Your relationship with Christ is important to you. At best, she only has a casual relationship with Christ. The fact that she is willing to separate herself from you as soon as she learned that you disagree with homosexuality tells a lot about her, and none of it is good. She sees her religion as a tool that supports her beliefs. In reality, she puts herself above God, which means she doesn’t really believe in God.
When dating, these are the things you are to look out for. This is why you need to get to know a person well before committing yourself to that person.
You also need to consider a person as they are and not as you hope they might become. Perhaps she will change, but until she does change, this is not the type of woman you would want to be your wife.
We all have a tendency to want to hold on to things we’ve invested time and effort in, even when it becomes clear they aren’t going to work out. You have to look at what things are.
Response:
Thank you for your advice! I really appreciate the work that you do.
I find it easy to get depressed when searching for a godly spouse. I pray to the Lord that He might help make me into the man He would have me to be in order to become a godly husband someday. I don’t want to be alone in life; marriage is a desire that’s in my heart. I ask that you also pray for me.
Sincerely, a brother in Christ.