Last updated on August 29, 2020
Question:
I found your web site by searching for information about masturbation and night emissions. I found your page about the 24-year-old guy and his struggle in quitting pornography and starting a cycle of wet dreams.
First, I want to say how helpful it was for me and how thankful I am for such information. I felt in my spirit God nudging me to address purity in my life. I do not struggle with pornography, praise God. It’s all because of Him that I don’t. But I believe He wanted to address the condition of my heart and mind and their defilement. So I obeyed, quit masturbation, and dropped the habit just like that. Surrendered it all to Him. He made it easy and He empowers me by His Spirit. Staying in the Word helped me and also continually being filled with His presence. He is a good God. Masturbation controlled me, but not anymore.
I was just figuring out ways to release and found the web site. The question I have is simple: If this 24-year-old is trying to create a cycle of having wet dreams. Is it possible to just create a cycle of having pure masturbation? Like, let’s say, once every month or whatever is a good cycle for that person? I am not sure that I can fully have a pure experience with that because I have a somewhat recent ex-girlfriend who comes to mind and we were sexually impure, mostly dry humping, and there were a few instances of her giving me oral sex. I have broken off soul ties. I am just waiting for full heading as I give those thoughts and memories to God.
Answer:
I find it puzzling to run across people who believe they are being led by God while simultaneously rebelling against Him. “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God” (I Corinthians 6:9-10). Don’t get me wrong. I’m very happy that you are straightening out your life and getting right with God. But as I said, the thought process puzzles me.
Others have asked similar questions. See:
- How is it possible to masturbate without sinful thoughts?
- Is it wrong to masturbate because it feels good?
Question:
I feel misunderstood. I am already right with God. I have righteousness. Have I sinned? Yes. Have I sought forgiveness? Yes. There are areas of my soul that needed and still need and will need renewal. The same with everybody. Let me try and re-post what I was trying to say: I was tied to pornography until I got saved but the “mechanical masturbation,” basically chronic masturbation, continued. I then got into a relationship and sinned. Broke that off and repented. Now I have been led to stop being controlled by masturbation, and that’s how I found the web site because I was trying to find out information about night emissions and you had more information on masturbation as well. I didn’t want to masturbate because I will not allow thinking of a past girlfriend, and that’s wrong. I’m sure you would agree. You believe it’s OK to masturbate as long as there are no fantasies, right?
God wants purity not just in outside action but also in the condition of my heart so He is leading me into purity, and that’s not just sexually, that’s with every wicked thing in my heart.
If you’re puzzled, I hope this clears it up. I appreciate you reciting I Corinthians 6, but it was already repented of. It was completely turned from.
I felt from your response that there might be a misunderstanding.
Answer:
Thank you for clearing it up. What confused me was your original note mentioned you having oral sex, but there was no mention of repenting of that sin. I always want to make sure people understand that it takes more than just stopping a sin, but an understanding that it was wrong and an commitment to not repeat the sin.
Response:
Yea, sorry about that misunderstanding. I thought for sure there must have been one. But where you were coming from was right if it had been that situation. The Holy Spirit wouldn’t let me escape the very obvious sins I committed in that relationship. At the time I committed it, I couldn’t live another minute without repenting. It was a hard experience that taught me to obey rather than disobey, to trust instead of rebelling. Now that pornography and sexual immorality have been overcome, He has taken me into a revelation of how pure and holy He wants us to be and how important it is. Holiness is not optional.
It’s not just the external or outside sin we get rid of but the internal as well. The condition of our hearts and minds. Thank you for helping me to understand some things with your web site. It has really helped me and given me direction in how He wants my new way of living in holiness and purity to look now that I am choosing to obey His unction of moving forward and into greater holiness and purity.